Tuesday, October 12, 2010

The source of married strength

For those of you who are married or thinking of marriage, this is for you. the Bible gives a lot of scripture dealing with relationships between friends, enemies and married couples. If you have never did a study on these, it is never too early to start or too late for that matter.

My husband and I have been married for many years. We are an example of the proverbial 'opposites attract' theory. I was thinking about this the other day and I realized something that I had suspicioned before but never actually admitted to myself. He makes me stop and think. I am the type who comes up with plans for all sorts of things. Usually unless he is around to make me stop and think about exactly how I am going to to make this scheme happen I'll get about halfway and realize that I need to go back and re-think this thing.

He doesn't laugh at my schemes, or treat them with sarcasm, he takes them unconditionally. He doesn't immediately agree or disagree, but he never knocks the wind out of my sails. He just begins to listen, knodding his head occasionally. He's the thinker of the couple. He is the type of person who can take something apart, no matter how complicated and figure out what's wrong with it. Then given the right tools can fix and assemble it. It is a gift. One that I admittedly do not have.

 I am the risk taker, he is the steadying hand that makes the risk work. The two of us make one good person. Have you ever heard someone say that refering to their marriage? If you have, then you can know that this is what God intended marriage to be.  Genesis 2:24 says that a man and his wife shall be one flesh.

But let me take that one step further and say that those 'two as one' can never be truely complete unless each one separately has become one with Christ. When each of these 'two as one' have the mind of Christ, then they are truely complete. They are one mind as well as one flesh as the Bible describes. I think of this when I read the verses in Ecclesiates 9 through 12. But here I will quote just the 12th verse.
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken"

A two-fold cord is stronger than  one cord alone, but when you intertwine the third cord, then you have true strength. Have you the cord of Christ in your marriage?